Welcome to part 2 of Dawn Green's 3-part series on "Building a New Relationship with Food. If you missed part 1, you can find it here!
There are few things more all-consuming than obsessive thinking about food, health and the weight and appearance of the body. With both women and men this pre-occupation often over-shadows all other goals, enjoyments and experiences in life.
The focus on food and the body fills the same need that alcohol, drugs, gambling and compulsive shopping, to name a few, do: It is a strategy to shut down the inner experience of emptiness, aloneness, disconnection and lack. All of these activities create in initial feeling of excitement and satisfaction, but it’s short-lived. You can’t get enough of what you don’t really want, so you keep repeating the same behaviour, in progressively more extreme ways, hoping for a different result. This preoccupation with finding an exterior solution to an internal problem blocks access to the real solution.
To get to the root of the problem, it is necessary to address your relationship with your inner Self.
It is in this relationship that the fullness, wholeness, peace and abundance that you are longing for is experienced. Everything that you have been searching for comes from inside, and you already have it!
This is when the journey of healing the obsession starts to become fun! At the same time as you are deepening your experience of your Inner Self, you can take practical steps to heal your relationship with food. The healing of your relationship with your Inner Self supports the healing of your relationship with food, and vice versa. At this point you can begin to feel a real loosening of the mental and emotional ties that bound you to compulsive acting out. Another way to say this is that your focus on your Divine self and your focus on taking loving actions in the world with food dissipate your focus on your drive to fill an emptiness that doesn’t really exist. When you focus on love, automatically your willingness to suffer and struggle decreases accordingly. And the more you focus on love, the more you want to, because it is what you have been looking for all along.
If you no longer want to fight with food and your body, here are 3 things you can do to start to move in your new direction:
And if you forget all this and find yourself acting out old mental and emotional patterns, go back to No. 1 on the list and Choose Again!
In the next instalment, we will continue the conversation by discussing 3 more tools you can use to free yourself from the self you made up (you know, the one that has problems with food, body and weight!)
Dawn is a Certified Intuitive Eating Counsellor, and has worked with Choose Again for many years. She is currently at our centre in Costa Rica, and is available for Online sessions. Contact Dawn at firstname.lastname@example.org, or visit her website at www.dawngreen.org
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