New car, bigger house, the perfect partner. Nothing brings us the peace we hope for.
The new stuff becomes the new normal and the perfect partner seems to have the same imperfections as the previous ones.
The reason for this is that what we try to find outside of ourselves is just a mirror of what we think is broken from the inside. We don’t seem to be too different from computers. We are running the software that does exactly what we programmed it for a long time ago.
What can possibly be awkward about silence?
It isn’t the silence that is awkward, it’s your thoughts, that you notice in silence, that are awkward. It is the mental process of figuring out how to stop the nagging voice in your head asking what is it that you need to say to fill the void, to impress, to impart information, to collude, or to invite so-called friendship.
Question 1: “If you get a 'bad' feeling about an interaction with someone, how can you tell if this bad feeling is just from the past coloring your perception of the present or a real intuitive warning that this person is not trustworthy and out to harm you?”
This is not a simple question or one that can be answered quickly.
Remember Step 2? Step 2 says, unequivocally: It is about me. Any and all feelings are chosen by me and 'by me' I mean the 'self' I made up, a belief in other words. So the bad feeling may be chosen by a belief that I deserve to be punished for example and I see the 'punisher' in this person. Or it could mean that have done what I suspect this person
As I sat down to dinner last night, I looked around the table. I saw dearly loved faces softly lit by the candles glowing on the table. My eyes also took in the beautiful, bright tropical floral arrangements that graced the centre of the table. I inhaled deeply and savoured the fragrance of the flowers mixed with soft rainforest air that seems to nourish all things.
Other things I felt grateful for:
There’s an inherent contradiction when it comes to doing spiritual work. If the answer lies within, then why travel somewhere else to find it? Simply meditate on the question, “Who am I,” and all will be revealed.
But what fun is that?
And how do I cultivate the humility, discipline and willingness to go within and heal in the first place?
The answer can sometimes be simple, by sharing the process with others.
We just completed three weeks of workshops in the South of France at Les Labadous, our home away from home. The workshops were, as always, incredibly effective and many a breakthrough was witnessed.
For this message, however, I want to talk a little about how my perception chooses my experience. This is, of course, a well known concept and one we teach consistently. Circumstances have nothing to do with my experience, my choice does.
Charlie and I took a few days between workshops and drove to the Mediterranean Coast
The answer is: It depends! There is nothing intrinsically wrong with competition—it can be fun to compete. The problem comes when a child equates her worth with the outcome of the competition. I’m worthy if I win. I’m worth less if I lose. A child who knows his Inherent Worth (IW) will be OK no matter what the outcome of the competition—his worth is not at stake. Competition will be fun for the competitors when they are secure in their awareness of their IW. Avoid competitions until you are sure of that. If you can’t avoid it here are a few tips:
By Anne Andrew (excerpted from her upcoming book What They Don’t Teach in Prenatal Class: The Key to Raising Trouble-Free Kids and Teenswww.anneandrew.com/book.html.)
One of the biggest causes of upsets for parents currently seems to be the battle over screen time. Studies show that too much screen time is not good for children, and screens need to be off for an hour or two before bedtime or sleep can suffer. Social media is adding stress to teens because of the need to be camera ready at all times and the huge potential for abuse. Policing screen time is an unwelcome but necessary chore for parents these days.
Building a New Relationship With Food: Bonus! - Using the Six Steps to Freedom to Heal Your Relationship with Food
Welcome to the Bonus Post in the series on Building a New Relationship with Food. (You can find Part 1 HERE, Part 2 HERE, and Part 3 HERE)
The Choose Again Six Step Process is an effective tool to help heal your relationship with food and the body. It is really just another aspect of your relationship with Self that you are healing. A relationship with food and the body that is a source of struggle comes from mistaken beliefs you've made up about yourself and corresponding ways of acting out those beliefs to get more evidence for them.
Let's take a closer look......
You start by going to:
Welcome to Part 3 of the series on Building a New Relationship with Food. (You can find Part 1 HERE and Part 2 HERE)
As part of the process of reclaiming your freedom around food, let’s look at one of the key principles: Step aside from the diet mentality.
Everyone has intuitive guidance in all aspects of their life all the time. There is nothing special about having it around food….it is just part of how we’re set up. In order to be in touch with your internal guidance around food you need to make yourself available to it.
This means stepping away from externally dictated, conflicting, fear-inducing rules that live in your mind and manage your relationship with food. Here are 4 way that you can start to do that:
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