"To forgive is wisdom, to forget is genius." ~ Joyce Cary
It is wise to forgive, yes, that may not be too difficult to acknowledge. If I do not forgive much of my creative energy goes to sustaining the grudge, grudges are hungry and require lots of energy. To forget, however, is well beyond wise. It is to recognize that if I ‘forgive’ but do not forget, what I claim to have forgiven is lurking in the background, waiting, fully armed, to attack again at any time convenient to me. What a sad waste of energy! How many times did you hear people say: “Did you forget 9-11?” In other words: “Do not allow your energies to be directed towards love keep them focused on anger, resentment and hate.” Forgetting is remembering better.
Diederik Wolsak is program director at Choose Again