Victims have no choice but to blame.

"People are always blaming their circumstances for what they are. I don't believe in circumstances. The people who get on in this world are the people who get up and look for the circumstances they want, and if they can't find them, make them." ~ George Bernard Shaw

It may be a matter of beginning to recognize and accept that whatever I have in my life is my choice, or, at the very least, to accept that my experience of whatever happens is my choice. From that place of absolute accountability I have the freedom to become a creator. 
Love, Diederik