"Forgiveness has nothing to do with absolving a criminal of his crime. It has everything to do with relieving oneself of the burden of being a victim--letting go of the pain and transforming oneself from victim to survivor." ~ C.R. Strahan
Ahh, the belief in ‘victim’, how it colours everything I see or think or feel. Easter is such a perfect moment to check in and see how much of the ‘victim’ still runs the show; to note how I have interpreted one of the greatest demonstrations of absolute, unconditional forgiveness as a dreadful ‘victim’ story. The ‘victim’ position is horribly addictive and equally horribly tough to release: the pay-off is so universal; to be coddled as a ‘victim’ is so seductive and yet so deadly. By all means ‘transform oneself from victim to survivor’ but don’t stop there. Surviving is nice but now it is time to Thrive! Time to claim my Easter!
Diederik Wolsak is program director at Choose Again