“This is what is hardest: to close the open hand because one loves.” ~ Friedrich Nietzsche
I find there can be a confusion with the notion of ‘extending love’, believing that one must always embrace the other--regardless of the situation at hand. I find this to be a level confusion, where these acts of tolerant ‘kindness’ are hiding insecurities of unworthiness and fear of being alone. My only job is to see the truth in the other, and akin to observing a three-year old playing with a knife, there are times when being witness to self-destructive behaviors requires more proactive measures. It may be perceived as a retreat, but is really an invitation--for both parties--to reconnect within.
Diederik Wolsak is program director at Choose Again