"For at times it happens that some trifle will cause as much suffering to one as a great trial will to another; little things can bring much distress to persons who have sensitive natures. If you are not like them, do not fail to be compassionate." ~ Teresa of Avila
So often we look for major trauma as the cause of someone’s ‘trauma of origin’ in psychological distress. We have found over the years that the most common, by far the most common cause is something as seemingly innocuous as: “My father was five minutes late picking me up from pre-school.” That became a defining moment; that is when a belief was formed. The belief could be a variety of things: not lovable, not important, worthless, not loved, abandoned. Each of these needs to be transformed to prevent an endless run of replays.
Diederik Wolsak is program director at Choose Again