"Remember that the best relationship is one in which your love for each other exceeds your need for each other." ~ Dalai Lama
Interesting. The love for each other is the love of the Self. The Self has no needs. What then do I ‘need’ from the ‘other’? While I am still at the very beginning of my healing path I might ‘need’ patience, I might ‘need’ tolerance, I might ‘need’ acceptance. But none of these will have any lasting effect on my experience in the relationship till I learn to see the Self in everything I see. Once that begins to take on reality, all needs are seen for what they are: mistaken ideas based on a false ‘self’.
Diederik Wolsak is program director at Choose Again