“A man that flies from his fear may find that he has only taken a short cut to meet it.” ~ J.R.R Tolkien
Now that's a scary thought. Yet I can definitely relate. My aversion to conflict, couched under the desire for harmony in my relationships, will lead me to live a guarded life where I am never truly being-with another--of communicating one's insecurities...which may come out as a perceived grievance or hurt. It may appear as messy when you do this, as there is always an element of risk. But amidst the 'chaos' or disruption is space for growth, and isn't that what relationships are about?
Diederik Wolsak is program director at Choose Again