“Until we can receive with an open heart, we’re never really giving with an open heart. When we attach judgment to receiving help, we knowingly or unknowingly attach judgment to giving help.” ~ Brene Brown
Years ago, when I was really caught up with the idea of depression, I had isolated myself--both physically and emotionally--under the misguided premise that seclusion would bring me safety. What could be called a stubbornness to open-up was really a fear of being vulnerable, of being judged as defective. It wasn’t until I came to the center in Costa Rica that I realized it had nothing to do with being alone, but it was the feeling of isolation from myself that I had constructed as a protective measure from the fear of what deformities I perceived to be within.
They say it takes a village to raise a child. In the case of affected individuals like myself, it took a community to remember him, and the innocence that never went away.
Diederik Wolsak is program director at Choose Again