“The opposite of Loneliness is not Togetherness, it’s intimacy.” ~ Richard Bach
Interesting idea here...and one that I believe gets to the core of relationships. If the goal of connection was via bodies, then why are there times that I have been standing right beside someone and yet felt worlds apart? I would suggest that it could stem from emotional boundaries based on the desire for self-regulation (ie.”You cannot affect me!”). What if, instead, I take on a more permeable state of receptivity...to allow oneself to be influenced by another, but not determined?
This prospect might seem frightening, as it implies that I get outside my comfort-zone and take risks; to be open for change, and to be changed. Anyone can jump into bed with someone--that is, enacting one’s will power--but to fall in love with someone is to actively surrender with a leap of faith--to place trust in the other, and, in yourself.
Diederik Wolsak is program director at Choose Again