“Love is the funeral pyre where the heart must lay its body." ~ Hafiz
 
I know, it would seem that the body gets a bad rap here but let’s be clear: is it possible to conceive of a single problem I think I have without it originating in body identification? Once I return to Knowing that I am abstract, formless, infinite Love I can return to enjoy the illusory joys the body seems to offer without attachment, I then discover those joys are actually echoes of spirit.
Love, Diederik

“A man that flies from his fear may find that he has only taken a short cut to meet it.” ~ J.R.R Tolkien

Now that's a scary thought. Yet I can definitely relate. My aversion to conflict, couched under the desire for harmony in my relationships, will lead me to live a guarded life where I am never truly being-with another--of communicating one's insecurities...which may come out as a perceived grievance or hurt. It may appear as messy when you do this, as there is always an element of risk. But amidst the 'chaos' or disruption is space for growth, and isn't that what relationships are about?
Love, Dave

“We believe in ordinary acts of bravery, in the courage that drives one person to stand up for another.” ~ Veronica Roth
 
Yes, and if I stand up for you out of obligation, cultural or moral pressure (after all, it is the "right thing to do") it is meaningless. If I stand up for you because you are Me, because you are the Self, it becomes automatic, selfless and an extension of Love. Syrians (and black, white, pink, yellow, orange or blue people) are the Self.

Love, Diederik

"Whatever happens to you by you, through you; you are the creator, enjoyer and destroyer of all you perceive." ~ Nisargadatta

One hundred percent authorship. Now, that is so easily experienced as a guilt trip unless I am willing to surrender to the truth that everything has always been and will always be for the ultimate good, for healing. The fact that my experience teaches me otherwise simply points to my unwillingness to take ownership and I prefer to play in blame-land a little longer.
Love, Diederik

In the last of our video series, Diederik responds to a question about NOT being in a Relationship.
Christina wonders if she is running away from healing by not being in a relationship, and Diederik reminds her that being gentle with herself is an important part of this work.

Our Special Video Series continues with:
Diederik's response to the question: "Can I relate to others without projection?"

Projection is involved in all our relationships, and in order to navigate them successfully, we can learn about how our projections on others are a product of the beliefs we hold about ourselves.

Our Special Video Series continues with:
Diederik responds to a question about whether it's better for a couple to do the Six Step process together or separately when triggered in relationship.

We have a number of relationship workshops coming up, check out our calendar for dates and locations.

There's only one space left on our upcoming "Purpose and Trust" workshop. Don't miss it!