“If you trade your authenticity for safety, you may experience the following: anxiety, depression, eating disorders, addiction, rage, blame, resentment, and inexplicable grief.” ~ Brene Brown
When it comes to living your life, you are your own expert. This does not mean that I dismiss guidance from others, but I do so mindfully, and with a sort of ‘sound-check' from within--does this resonate, and ring true for me?
"A common man marvels at uncommon things. A wise man marvels at the commonplace." ~ Confucius
What I think Confucius is saying to me here is that when I am wise, when I am free of judgement in other words, I see God, Love, Spirit in everything. It is perhaps somewhat like this little story:
THE DOG'S DIARY:
7 am- Oh boy! A walk! My favourite!
8 am- Oh boy! Dog food! My favourite!
9 am- Oh boy! The kids! My favourite!
Noon- Oh boy! The yard! My favourite!
2 pm- Oh boy! A car ride! My favourite!
3 pm- Oh boy! The kids! My favourite!
4 pm- Oh boy! Playing ball! My favourite!
6 pm- Oh boy! Welcome home Mum! My favourite!
7 pm- Oh boy! Welcome home Dad! My favourite!
8 pm- Oh boy! Dog food! My favourite!
9 pm- Oh boy! Tummy rubs on the couch! My favourite!
"When it is obvious that the goals cannot be reached, don't adjust the goals, adjust the action steps." ~ Confucius
What is the goal? And why do I keep thinking I need to adjust the action steps?
If the goal is Peace of Mind, no steps are required other than the joyful dropping of any idea that I know how to reach it. If the goal is anything other than absolute Peace there are no steps I could ever take that will bring true and lasting satisfaction.
“Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose.” ~ Viktor Frankl
Fascinating. Could it not be that a possible desire of wanting to abolish one’s past is not necessarily because of the suffering inflicted along the way, but because of a lack of understanding--i.e Why the hell did that happen!? Taking from Frankl’s logic, what if, instead of the relinquishment of the past, the task becomes adopting the unwanted with meaningful integration?
"Thank God for the things that I do not own." ~ Teresa of Avila
How delightfully precise and sparse; the things ‘I’ do not own, are the only things worth having (being): Love, Forgiveness, Patience, Trust.
“The opposite of ‘never enough’ isn’t abundance or ‘more than you could ever imagine’. The opposite of scarcity is enough.” ~ Brene Brown
This sentence really hit home for me. Abundance is certainly a word that gets tossed around a lot these days, side-saddled with ‘the Universe’ as part of our ‘birth-right’ to experiencing life. Like the vastness of the universe, abundance--and the law of attraction--can be a philosophy that propels one forward to future tomorrows, seeking out new ‘life’ without first attending and connecting with what I left behind. The grass is only greener on the other side because I have neglected to water my lawn.
"I will not serve God like a labourer, in expectation of my wages." ~ Idries Shaw
Serving 'God like a labourer' implies inequality. Only in Oneness can I genuinely and joyfuly serve. The wages are inherent in the serving, not as a reward, earned at great cost to myself, at some later stage.
“The dark does not destroy the light; it defines it. It’s our fear of the dark that casts our joy into the shadows” ~ Brene Brown
Wow, just imagine what it would feel like if we accepted this, even momentarily, as true? This does not mean that I have to be overjoyed with every aspect of my life, but at least, by owning it, it becomes meaningful.
“The more we acquire the more we crave, and the deeper our sadness when our yearning is not satisfied. Lads, listen to me: If you crave happiness, do not waste your life struggling for that which you really do not need." ~ Yalom
It is so tempting; it is so seductive when happiness and joy seem to elude me to search for a quickly available substitute. Nothing I think I may need will ever truly bring me a deeply grounded sense of Peace.
“If you look for perfection, you’ll never be content.” ~ Leo Tolstoy
Very true, but that doesn’t necessarily mean I exclude ambition, or drive for change. I see perfection and progress as complimentary, when set about with compassion. I can love my body for how it is, while also recognizing that exercise and a healthy diet will enhance my physical and emotional well-being. It’s just a matter of where I am coming from, and to what purpose--“What would I do if I loved myself?”
Diederik Wolsak is program director at Choose Again