“Whatever happens, happens to you by you, through you; you are the creator, enjoyer and destroyer of all you perceive.” ~ Nisargaddata
I find that all within my seeming experience becomes so much easier when I take radical ownership. As soon as I make exceptions the door opens to a veritable flood of exceptions each exquisitely designed to feed the insatiable addiction to my victim position. To make that faith based position even remotely possible I also have to accept without question that nothing has ever gone wrong.
"A quiet mind is all you need. All else will happen rightly, once your mind is quiet. As the sun on rising makes the world active, so does self-awareness affect changes in the mind. In the light of calm and steady self-awareness, inner energies wake up and work miracles without any effort on your part" ~ Nisargadatta
A quiet mind, a mind that does not run off in all directions making up fantastic stories in the process, that mind allows Love to enter. Love waits patiently.
"You will receive everything you need when you stop asking for what you do not need" ~ Nisargadatta
Western psychology addresses the ‘unmet needs’ while Nisargadatta recognizes that the idea of ‘unmet needs’ itself is the barrier to Having All, the barrier to Love.
“Shame, blame, disrespect, betrayal, and the withholding of affection damage the roots from which love grows. Love can only survive these injuries if they are acknowledged, healed and rare.” ~ Brene Brown
I can certainly accuse myself at times of being selfish, or caught up in a belief system of scarcity. In fact, I believe that it will always be there, but how I respond to it makes all the difference. Instead of shaming myself when I act out, I can hold a compassionate stance, recognizing that I am not perfect--I am human. Letting my insecurities be shown is not a weakness but a strength, I and I would much rather be real than stuffed with repressed emotions.
“The act of not discussing or confiding the event with another may be more damaging than having experienced the event per se.” ~ James Pennebaker
Shame is such a potent form of emotional and physical stress because it has the effect of isolating and compartmentalization; I essentially lock up a part of myself, for fear of being exposed--as damaged, offensive, or as fundamentally wrong. Recognizing that these judgments are false is one thing, but to bring up the story in a safe space, with another, is an entirely different experience: holding the space, to shorten the space--between and within.
"If we can really understand the problem, the answer will come out of it, because the answer is not separate from the problem." ~ Krishnamurti
To understand the problem is to know that the problem as presented is little more than an opportunity to heal the belief that calls ‘it’ a problem. In Truth there are no problems.
"Roads were made for journeys not destinations" ~ Confucius
Eighteen hundreds years later Meister Eckhart says: “He who looks for God in ways will find ways but he will not find God.” Maybe it is time to let go of attachment to the form of seeking?
"When it is obvious that the goals cannot be reached, don't adjust the goals, adjust the action steps." ~ Confucius
What is the goal? And why do I keep thinking I need to adjust the action steps?
If the goal is Peace of Mind, no steps are required other than the joyful dropping of any idea that I know how to reach it. If the goal is anything other than absolute Peace there are no steps I could ever take that will bring true and lasting satisfaction.
"The constant assertion of belief is an indication of fear." ~ Krishnamurti
Just as a gentle reminder of Truth is an indication, an extension, of Love.
"One is never afraid of the unknown; one is afraid of the known coming to an end." ~ Krishnamurti
Yes, that is one reason to be afraid. ‘Fear of the unknown’ is not possible. If it is truly unknown, what is there to be afraid of? No, I am afraid of what I have made up as future; the future I have made up is a projection of the past, so all I am doing is reliving the past. On the other hand, it could be said that the Unknown is another word for God, and I know that God=Love brings about the end of my very existence as a self-invented identity and that is a scary thought. Time for a leap of faith or ... stay bunkered down fending off ghosts, demons and loved ones?
Diederik Wolsak is program director at Choose Again