"Neurosis is the way of avoiding nonbeing by avoiding being" ~ Tillich
‘Avoiding nonbeing’? What does that mean to me? Am I afraid of losing my sad little, self-made, identity by embracing the blinding beauty of ‘nonbeing’? Could it be that I can only ‘Be’ by surrendering to ‘nonbeing’. Is my ‘Being’ defined by the eternity of ‘Nonbeing’?
"Extraordinary claims require extraordinary evidence." ~ Carl Sagan
That extraordinary evidence becomes clear the moment I surrender to the One-ness. The claim itself will not produce evidence. My surrendering to the idea of Love does.
“You cannot protect yourself from sadness without protecting yourself from happiness.”~ Jonathan Safran Foer
This is exactly why running away from my feelings will never work. I can try to sprinkle all the magic fairy dust of positive affirmations till the cows come home, but that will never bring me back to a state of grounded awareness. Invite and embrace the uncomfortable, because it is the desire for comfort--of clinging to that which is familiar--which keeps me rooted in the past and the cause of suffering.
"A woman's heart should be so close to God that a man should have to chase Him to find her." ~ C.S.Lewis
A heart (mercifully gender free) can only be found through Knowing the Truth, Knowing the unchangeable Oneness. Namaste.
"One cannot seek happiness, for it is the result of realizing the Truth. The personality, which has security and pleasure as its aims, cannot be happy. Pursuing pleasure or safety will entail covering up any unpleasant or frightening truths. This automatically closes Joy. For Joy is the radiance of the heart when Truth is appreciated." ~ Almaas
The ‘danger’ lies not in covering up any ‘unpleasant or frightening’ truths, there are no such truths. Those characterizations are the result of mistaken interpretation. The danger lies in covering up limiting beliefs which render these truths unpleasant or frightening. These beliefs will, over time, poison all I look upon and Joy will not be experienced as long as these beliefs are the operating system with which I walk the earth.
“There can be no hope without fear, and no fear without hope.” ~ Baruch Spinoza
Hope, a universally treasured feeling, has to my mind an element of victim. “I hope things will work out ….” A statement implying a sense of powerlessness and of being at the whim of circumstances. Naturally the feeling of ‘hope’ would be accompanied by ‘fear’ as I have absolutely no way of ensuring that ‘things will work out’. Now when I develop ‘Trust’, a sense of Knowing that all is at all times FOR me, then ‘hope’ becomes meaningless as does ‘fear’. I wonder what Spinoza would say to this. Anyone channeling Spinoza these days? Let me know?
“For the only therapy is life. The patient must learn to live, to live with his split, his conflict, his ambivalence, which no therapy can take away, for if it could, it would take with it the actual spring of life.” ~ Otto Rank
I would rephrase this to say “Therapy is a means of embracing life--triggers and all”. One very common trapping surrounding inner-work is placing the goal as the abolition of judgments and upsets. The notion is akin to planting a flag on a mountain and telling it not to move. What therapy does provide is a strong foundation to support me during times of ‘conflict’, and an adventurous attitude that adapts and adopts resistance as a means of flight.
"We are all afraid that one day we shall pass away into nonexistence. But if the truth be known, nonexistence is trembling in fear that it might be given human shape." ~ Jamal Rahman
The idea of ‘nonexistence’ has always been immensely appealing to me and, yet, I know that for many it is a thought of sheer dread. What does it really mean? To me it would mean that all I thought I was, was not; that all I thought I needed to be or do, needed not to be or be done. It means that in the nonexistence is All contained and in that All I can have fun and pretend I am human.
“You imagine that your possessions protect you. In reality they make you vulnerable. Realize” ~ Roy Melvyn
It is not just my possessions that I believe will protect me, that task has also been given to a wide variety of outside agents. None will deliver. Security can only come from Knowing and has nothing to do with form. As long as I doubt my essence I will be vulnerable in my mind though never in Truth.
“Believe in a love that is being stored up for you like an inheritance, and have faith that in this love there is a strength and a blessing so large that you can travel as far as you wish without having to step outside it.” ~ Rainer Maria Rilke
That Love is within. That Love is who I am, who You are. That Love is unchangeable and infinitely patient. I can waste 75 years and yet there it is. It waits with a little smile, the knowing smile of a patient mother.
Diederik Wolsak is program director at Choose Again