Calamity?

“Where self-interest is the bond, the friendship is dissolved when calamity comes. where Tao is the bond, friendship is made perfect by calamity.” ~ The Way of Chuang Tzu
 
Self-interest, the desires of the ego, are laid in the field of any relationship like mines.  It is only a matter of time till one goes off. Calamities are nothing other than opportunities for me to strengthen my resolve to Know; to Know that all is FOR me; to Know that the other cannot bring me anything I need or hurt me in any way. Knowing that nourishes all in the relationship.
Love, Diederik