"In infinite time, in infinite matter, in infinite space, is formed a bubble organism, and that bubble lasts a while and bursts, and that bubble is Me." ~ Tolstoy
Just about sums it up, doesn’t it? I love how Tolstoy clears the space of all specialness.
"Sometimes people walk away from love because it is so beautiful that it terrifies them. Sometimes they leave because the connection shines a bright light on their dark places and they are not ready to work them through. Sometimes they run away because they are not developmentally prepared to merge with another- they have more individuation work to do first. Sometimes they take off because love is not a priority in their lives- they have another path and purpose to walk first. Sometimes they end it because they prefer a relationship that is more practical than conscious, one that does not threaten the ways that they organize reality. Because so many of us carry shame, we have a tendency to personalize love's leavings, triggered by the rejection and feelings of abandonment. But this is not always true. Sometimes it has nothing to do with us. Sometimes the one who leaves is just not ready to hold it safe. Sometimes they know something we don't- they know their limits at that moment in time. Real love is no easy path- readiness is everything. May we grieve loss without personalizing it. May we learn to love ourselves in the absence of the lover." ~ Jeff Brown
What a beautifully non-judgmental way of looking at how and why relationships change form from time to time. Taking things personally is the surest and shortest path to profound unhappiness. Looking at any situation with the curiosity of a child wondering what will be next allows for healing of old beliefs no matter what seems to be happening at any time. No blame. No self-blame. No blame of other.
“The true miracle is not walking on water or walking in air, but simply walking on this earth.”
There is most certainly a desire for the supernatural nowadays, with every second movie or tv-show coming out with a new comic-book depiction. While they can be seen as the epitome of escapism, high-lighting the fragmentation of ‘specialness’, I find there to be also a more humbling representation at play: these larger-than-life characters become that because they made a conscious decision to think and act responsibly, beyond their personal interests. This modern-day mythology is a gentle means of reminding us that we are a part of a larger community, and to walk, standing tall, with compassion.
“Most people do not really want freedom, because freedom involves responsibility, and most people are frightened of responsibility.” ~ Sigmund Freud
Interesting concept. Freedom and responsibility seem paradoxical, but if I were to truly accept my personal freedom, that consequently means that I am beholden only to myself; there can be no outside forces at play. Bye-bye blame!
“Nothing you become will disappoint me; I have no preconception that I'd like to see you be or do. I have no desire to foresee you, only to discover you. You can't disappoint me” ~ Mary Haskell
Love that line: “you can’t disappoint me”. Disappointment is a choice I make based on an expectation. All expectation is premeditated disappointment. My only Joy comes from seeing You and Me, the essence of You and Me, not the story we have woven to mask the essence.
"Your duty is to be and not to be this or that. 'I am that I am' sums up the whole truth. The method is summed up in the words 'Be still'. What does stillness mean? It means destroy yourself. Because any form or shape is the cause for trouble. Give up the notion that 'I am so and so'. All that is required to realize the Self is to be still. What can be easier than that?" ~ Ramana Maharshi
No more struggle to ‘prove’ my worth or lack thereof. No more effort to achieve and receive validation or condemnation. Just to vacuum Mary Magdalene’s crypt ....
"The whole world is your own Self. So who is good and who is bad?" ~ Poonja
It takes me (apparently) seemingly forever to really ‘get’ that I only meet the Self at all times and at every turn. What is it in me that will not see the ‘dream’ but still believes that what I see has even the slightest reality? Am I hopelessly addicted? If so, now is the time to detox and surrender to the self. Who is good and bad? No-one is either. Love is neither good nor not good, bad nor not bad. Love Is.
“Remember that sometimes not getting what you want is a wonderful stroke of luck.” ~ Dalai Lama
Pain sucks; it hurts, feels constricting, and can add significant hurdles when attempting to achieve peace. However, pain can be a great motivator for change, as one dives into the source of the pain through self-inquiry and reflection. Now, I am not suggesting to become sadistic, and sending out invitations to pain for the sake of ‘higher learning’. More so to welcome that which approaches your door-step, because they are knocking from the inside, hoping you will finally hear and answer their call-for-love with compassion.
Diederik Wolsak is program director at Choose Again