“Remember that sometimes not getting what you want is a wonderful stroke of luck.” ~ Dalai Lama
Pain sucks; it hurts, feels constricting, and can add significant hurdles when attempting to achieve peace. However, pain can be a great motivator for change, as one dives into the source of the pain through self-inquiry and reflection. Now, I am not suggesting to become sadistic, and sending out invitations to pain for the sake of ‘higher learning’. More so to welcome that which approaches your door-step, because they are knocking from the inside, hoping you will finally hear and answer their call-for-love with compassion.
“You imagine that your possessions protect you. In reality they make you vulnerable. Realize” ~ Roy Melvyn
It is not just my possessions that I believe will protect me, that task has also been given to a wide variety of outside agents. None will deliver. Security can only come from Knowing and has nothing to do with form. As long as I doubt my essence I will be vulnerable in my mind though never in Truth.
“The mind creates the abyss. The heart crosses over it.” ~ Nisargadatta
The mind, the ego, is just the idea, the thought that there could be an abyss. The heart Knows that could never be True.
“Believe in a love that is being stored up for you like an inheritance, and have faith that in this love there is a strength and a blessing so large that you can travel as far as you wish without having to step outside it.” ~ Rainer Maria Rilke
That Love is within. That Love is who I am, who You are. That Love is unchangeable and infinitely patient. I can waste 75 years and yet there it is. It waits with a little smile, the knowing smile of a patient mother.
“The question is not what you look at, but what you see.” ~ Henri David Thoreau.
... and it is not really 'what you see' but who you see. I can choose to see through the eyes of Truth or the self. What I see is dictated by that simple choice. Knowing I have that choice was a revelation. What or who I see is a reflection of the self seeing.
“Whatever happens, happens to you by you, through you; you are the creator, enjoyer and destroyer of all you perceive.” ~ Nisargaddata
I find that all within my seeming experience becomes so much easier when I take radical ownership. As soon as I make exceptions the door opens to a veritable flood of exceptions each exquisitely designed to feed the insatiable addiction to my victim position. To make that faith based position even remotely possible I also have to accept without question that nothing has ever gone wrong.
"If there is peace in your mind, you will find peace with everybody. If your mind is agitated, you will find agitation everywhere. So first find peace within and you will see this inner peace reflected everywhere else. Where else will you find peace if not within you?" ~ Poonja
“The real world is beyond the mind's ken; we see it through the net of our desires, divided into pleasure and pain, right and wrong, inner and outer. To see the universe as it is, you must step beyond the net. It is not hard to do so, for the net is full of holes.” ~ Nisargadatta
What I think I see is chosen by my beliefs. My beliefs generate my desires. The purpose of desire is to be disillusioned. Each new desire ‘fulfilled’ gives rise to additional desires. See through the false message of desire and I am free.
"To work in the world is hard, to refrain from all unnecessary work is even harder." ~ Nisargadatta
What would ‘unnecessary work’ be? Could it be any type of endeavour which has as its purpose to confirm my identity, protect my mistaken beliefs or to validate my existence? Could it be that the Self smiles at such efforts and waits for me to take a ‘day off’? Or, better yet, retire?
“To be wronged is nothing, unless you continue to remember it.” ~ Confucius
Another gentle reminder of the freedom of forgiveness over holding onto grievances from the past.
Diederik Wolsak is program director at Choose Again