"The gentleman does not promote people merely on the basis of their words, nor does he reject words merely because of the person who uttered them." ~ Confucius
To identify the words with the speaker and to do so selectively comes from an innate yet unrecognized need of idols. If I speak the Truth are they ‘my’ words? If Rumi speaks the Truth are they ‘his’ words? Helen Schucman wrote the Truth, were they ‘her’ words? The Truth is True regardless of what appears to be the source. “Out of the mouth of babes ....”
"If I understand Change, I shall make no great mistake in Life" ~ Confucius
As long as I am wholly surrendered to the teaching that all change leads to healing, all change is for the best at the deepest level, I will walk into change with curiosity and not with resistance or resentment. “What is this for?” is the only question that leads to healing. The “Why?” whine is permanently off the table.
“If you trade your authenticity for safety, you may experience the following: anxiety, depression, eating disorders, addiction, rage, blame, resentment, and inexplicable grief.” ~ Brene Brown
When it comes to living your life, you are your own expert. This does not mean that I dismiss guidance from others, but I do so mindfully, and with a sort of ‘sound-check' from within--does this resonate, and ring true for me?
"A common man marvels at uncommon things. A wise man marvels at the commonplace." ~ Confucius
What I think Confucius is saying to me here is that when I am wise, when I am free of judgement in other words, I see God, Love, Spirit in everything. It is perhaps somewhat like this little story:
THE DOG'S DIARY:
7 am- Oh boy! A walk! My favourite!
8 am- Oh boy! Dog food! My favourite!
9 am- Oh boy! The kids! My favourite!
Noon- Oh boy! The yard! My favourite!
2 pm- Oh boy! A car ride! My favourite!
3 pm- Oh boy! The kids! My favourite!
4 pm- Oh boy! Playing ball! My favourite!
6 pm- Oh boy! Welcome home Mum! My favourite!
7 pm- Oh boy! Welcome home Dad! My favourite!
8 pm- Oh boy! Dog food! My favourite!
9 pm- Oh boy! Tummy rubs on the couch! My favourite!
"Love is always patient and kind. It is never jealous. Love is never boastful or conceited. It is never rude or selfish. It does not take offense and is not resentful. Love takes no pleasure in other people’s sins, but delights in the truth. It is always ready to excuse, to trust, to hope, and to endure whatever comes." ~ Bible
What a perfect confluence of what I Know as love and how I perceive the idea of God. There simply is no difference. Now I begin to dimly grasp how immensely (and amusingly) foolish I was all those years when I arrogantly proclaimed to be an ‘atheist’. What I was really trumpeting was my juvenile, hubris laden ignorance, a fish at three hundred feet below the surface of the ocean proudly stating it does not believe in water. Awww honey ....
“The changes that appear to occur in the empty world we call real only because of our ignorance. Do not search for the truth; only cease to cherish opinions.” ~ Hsin Hsin Ming
I am my opinions. This is a position I hold without even being aware of it. My opinions constitute the rock solid structure on which my identity rests. I do not dare let go of an opinion out of fear of no longer existing. Ignorance masquerading as wisdom?
“Letting go of a craving is not rejecting it but allowing it to be itself” ~ Batchelor (Buddhism Without Beliefs)
This is why declaring a battle against something--ie. The War on Drugs/Terrorism/Islamophobia--will never achieve harmony because the goal is dissociation: “I am NOT that”. The desire to judge, to separate oneself out from the rest, is part of the human condition. When I recognize and embrace this part of myself, I open myself a little more to the world. To dominate, in my opinion, is to ‘look over with love’, and that can only come from a self-evaluation, and extend outward.
"Therefore the Sufi attends to his own journey, and does not judge others." ~ Hazrat Inayat Khan
Funny thing, this judging. It becomes such a whirlwind of ego-thought activity. I judge Trump; I take a deep breath and see it is the ‘self’ I am judging; I judge me for judging the ‘self’; and so it goes on and on. Tired of it yet? All judgement has to be relinquished if I ever want to Know Love. “The struggle between right and wrong is the primal disease of the mind.” (Seng-Ts’an)
"If we can really understand the problem, the answer will come out of it, because the answer is not separate from the problem." ~ Krishnamurti
To understand the problem is to know that the problem as presented is little more than an opportunity to heal the belief that calls ‘it’ a problem. In Truth there are no problems.
"Heaven means to be one with God." ~ Confucius
And what has my life been but one long, seemingly endless denial of that Oneness, all for the sake of a tiny slice, insignificant, ridiculous and pitiable, of individuality, so deeply venerated in our culture. Terminal uniqueness.
Diederik Wolsak is program director at Choose Again