"The ability to observe without evaluating is the highest form of intelligence." ~ Krishnamurti
Evaluation involves an idea of knowing what is right and what is wrong. Nagarjuna gave us a simple formula for that delusion: Something is neither right nor not right, neither wrong nor not wrong. It is a huge challenge to the ego to relinquish the addictive desire to judge. “Highest form of intelligence” is another word for ‘Love’.
“Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose.” ~ Viktor Frankl
Fascinating. Could it not be that a possible desire of wanting to abolish one’s past is not necessarily because of the suffering inflicted along the way, but because of a lack of understanding--i.e Why the hell did that happen!? Taking from Frankl’s logic, what if, instead of the relinquishment of the past, the task becomes adopting the unwanted with meaningful integration?
“Love rests in certainty. Only uncertainty can be defensive. And all uncertainty is doubt about yourself.” ~ ACIM
This certainty can be learned and while it is being learned it becomes increasingly integrated. Eventually this doubt about the Self vanishes and the world is experienced with calm assurance.
“Before I speak, I have something important to say.” ~ Groucho Marx
What a fabulous way of encouraging the reflective side within us all. Speaking up, voicing ‘your truth’, and getting in a word in a conversation are generally esteemed as valuable means of communication, yet they don’t always bring about connection. When I find myself in conflict, speaking tends to be the cause and listening the resolution.
"Untilled ground, however rich, will bring forth thistles and thorns; so also the mind of man." ~ Teresa of Avila
Untilled ground, an untrained mind, will never bring me joy or peace of mind. ‘Thistles and thorns’ are the incessant attack thoughts, justified judgments, rigidly defended opinions.
For forgiveness to have any meaning one axiom is required and that is the rock solid acceptance that nothing has ever gone wrong, that everything that seems to have happened to me or done by me, ultimately has been for the good of All. Without this Knowledge, forgiveness is a hollow gesture leading to the solidification of the victim addiction. No wonder true forgiveness is such a rare experience on the planet.
"Thank God for the things that I do not own." ~ Teresa of Avila
How delightfully precise and sparse; the things ‘I’ do not own, are the only things worth having (being): Love, Forgiveness, Patience, Trust.
"It is foolish to think that we will enter heaven without entering into ourselves." ~ Teresa of Avila
I think it may be sinking in: there is no way ‘out’ only a way ‘in’. Only the way ‘in’ is the way ‘out’.
“The more you know yourself, the more patience you have for what you see in others.” ~ Erik Erikson
Compassion starts with self and extends outward, yet it can only be cultivated by honest inquiry--of recognizing the parts within that fear connection. Given that we all have this to some degree or other, how can I reject a part of myself and hope to feel peace? To hold onto judgment of another is not necessarily wrong, but merely caught up in a state of incomplete awareness.
"For thought is a bird of space, that in a cage of words may indeed unfold its wings but cannot fly." ~ Kahlil Gibran
Interesting quote, isn’t it? Thought, a thought of Oneness, is a bird of infinite space. As soon as I insist on adding words to the infinite Thought, it ceases to have the immense power of the Thought of Love, the formless, abstract Thought of Love.
Diederik Wolsak is program director at Choose Again