“Everything comes to us that belongs to us if we create the capacity to receive it.” ~ Rabindranath Tagore
Could this not also be a gentle offering of seeing the value in everything that has happened to me, as if each discarded memory were only temporary lost and waiting to be found.
"Roads were made for journeys not destinations" ~ Confucius
Eighteen hundreds years later Meister Eckhart says: “He who looks for God in ways will find ways but he will not find God.” Maybe it is time to let go of attachment to the form of seeking?
"When it is obvious that the goals cannot be reached, don't adjust the goals, adjust the action steps." ~ Confucius
What is the goal? And why do I keep thinking I need to adjust the action steps?
If the goal is Peace of Mind, no steps are required other than the joyful dropping of any idea that I know how to reach it. If the goal is anything other than absolute Peace there are no steps I could ever take that will bring true and lasting satisfaction.
"For at times it happens that some trifle will cause as much suffering to one as a great trial will to another; little things can bring much distress to persons who have sensitive natures. If you are not like them, do not fail to be compassionate." ~ Teresa of Avila
So often we look for major trauma as the cause of someone’s ‘trauma of origin’ in psychological distress. We have found over the years that the most common, by far the most common cause is something as seemingly innocuous as: “My father was five minutes late picking me up from pre-school.” That became a defining moment; that is when a belief was formed. The belief could be a variety of things: not lovable, not important, worthless, not loved, abandoned. Each of these needs to be transformed to prevent an endless run of replays.
"The constant assertion of belief is an indication of fear." ~ Krishnamurti
Just as a gentle reminder of Truth is an indication, an extension, of Love.
“Let us be grateful to the people who make us happy; they are the charming gardeners who make our souls blossom.” ~ Marcel Proust
I can already hear some of you saying, “Nobody can make me happy! Happiness comes from within.” But if, as Poonja and other non-dualist teachers would attest to, all is Self, then the relationships and sense of connection I feel with others is symbolic of a process of opening up to life--which is none other than an extension of You...so There ;)
"One is never afraid of the unknown; one is afraid of the known coming to an end." ~ Krishnamurti
Yes, that is one reason to be afraid. ‘Fear of the unknown’ is not possible. If it is truly unknown, what is there to be afraid of? No, I am afraid of what I have made up as future; the future I have made up is a projection of the past, so all I am doing is reliving the past. On the other hand, it could be said that the Unknown is another word for God, and I know that God=Love brings about the end of my very existence as a self-invented identity and that is a scary thought. Time for a leap of faith or ... stay bunkered down fending off ghosts, demons and loved ones?
“The essence of the borderline dilemma is a conflict between a desire for autonomy and a fear of parental abandonment.” ~ Masterson
Could this not be a depiction of the human dilemma, playing from our very own Garden of Eden? The search for knowledge and self-actualization, juxtaposed by desiring to be a part of a much grander Meaning? Could not life be navigating a resolution by finding a balance of the two?
"To forgive is wisdom, to forget is genius." ~ Joyce Cary
It is wise to forgive, yes, that may not be too difficult to acknowledge. If I do not forgive much of my creative energy goes to sustaining the grudge, grudges are hungry and require lots of energy. To forget, however, is well beyond wise. It is to recognize that if I ‘forgive’ but do not forget, what I claim to have forgiven is lurking in the background, waiting, fully armed, to attack again at any time convenient to me. What a sad waste of energy! How many times did you hear people say: “Did you forget 9-11?” In other words: “Do not allow your energies to be directed towards love keep them focused on anger, resentment and hate.” Forgetting is remembering better.
"You only have to forgive once. To resent, you have to do it all day, every day. You have to keep remembering all the bad things." ~ M.L.Stedman
Resenting is exhausting and so utterly fruitless. To resent means I tell myself all day that something should not be the way it is. Good luck with that. To forgive means that I have not just moved on, but recognized that what happened was exactly what needed to happen. It means that I have decided to look for the gift in whatever it is that seems to have happened.
Diederik Wolsak is program director at Choose Again