"To have faith is to trust yourself to the water. When you swim you don't grab hold of the water, because if you do you will sink and drown. Instead you relax, and float." ~ Alan Watts
To Trust would require me to relinquish the idea of ‘self’; ‘self’ is an idea of individual identity and that idea will inevitably lead to disappointment just as any idea I treasure of ‘you’ as ‘another self’ will always be betrayed. Today my faith in the Truth of you and I will allow me to float effortlessly.
"None of us knows what might happen even the next minute, yet still we go forward. Because we trust. Because we have Faith." ~ Coelho
It is impossible not to have faith. The only question is: what do I place my faith in? I have chosen to surrender my Faith to the unshakable conviction that All and Everything has always been FOR me and always will be. Kind of feels good doesn’t it? Yes, it is ‘just’ a faith-based position, but, living as if it is True makes my life a whole lot easier than I ever thought possible!
“The more sand that has escaped from the hourglass of our life, the clearer we should see through it.” ~ Jean-Paul Sarte
A lovely sentiment, but I might offer another opinion. It seems to me that as I age and mature, I am more willing to accept the obscurities, or mystery, that characterizes life. Mind you, I still have a lot of sand left (knock-on-wood). I'll get back to you on that.
"The beginning of love is the will to let those we love be perfectly themselves, the resolution not to twist them to fit our own image. If in loving them we do not love what they are, but only their potential likeness to ourselves, then we do not love them: we only love the reflection of ourselves we find in them" ~ Thomas Merton
Love can only be the experience of Truth reflected. Everything else is ego preference met. Truth reflected is unconditional. It is entirely independent of ‘character’, ‘personality’, ‘looks’, ‘age’, ‘gender’ or even ‘species’.
“It is not so much the kind of person a man is as the kind of situation in which he finds himself that determines how he will act.” ~ Stanley Milgram
I find this line to be so important to remember when I am tempted to judge another’s character by their actions. While I may share certain traits and similar backgrounds, nevertheless, each person is unique in their particular history of experiences--their story--to which I can only fathom. What I can do is show compassion, which is honouring their difference, while also recognizing myself in the other; to acknowledge our shared interests as a bridge of connection.
"Remember that the best relationship is one in which your love for each other exceeds your need for each other." ~ Dalai Lama
Interesting. The love for each other is the love of the Self. The Self has no needs. What then do I ‘need’ from the ‘other’? While I am still at the very beginning of my healing path I might ‘need’ patience, I might ‘need’ tolerance, I might ‘need’ acceptance. But none of these will have any lasting effect on my experience in the relationship till I learn to see the Self in everything I see. Once that begins to take on reality, all needs are seen for what they are: mistaken ideas based on a false ‘self’.
“You cannot predict the outcome of human development. All you can do is like a farmer create the conditions under which it will begin to flourish.” ~ Ken Robinson
I may not be able how to predict how my day will look like, but I can certainly choose how I wish to experience it, and in doing so, will reap what I sow.
“Believe in a love that is being stored up for you like an inheritance, and have faith that in this love there is a strength and a blessing so large that you can travel as far as you wish without having to step outside it." ~ Rilke
Believe or, perhaps, rather have faith in that inheritance. Trust that Love is there waiting for my acceptance and always was even if it appears to be so very far off today. Trust. I cannot deny that Love but I can choose not to see it; I can block my awareness of the Truth within as long as I choose to. Had enough yet?
"I hear and behold God in every object, yet understand God not in the least." ~ Walt Whitman
God may be seen as another word for Oneness. There cannot be understanding in and of Oneness as it would take ‘other’ to understand. What ‘I’ can understand is what I have made up in the dream, thought, beliefs, opinions, all of these are ‘understandable’ but have nothing to do with God.
"Long enough have you dream'd contemptible dreams, now I wash the gum from your eyes, you must habit yourself to the dazzle of the light and of every moment of your life" ~ Walt Whitman
Slowly, slowly do I allow the Truth to become True in me. Slowly, slowly do I begin to accept the ‘dazzle of the Light’ to be the Light within me.
Diederik Wolsak is program director at Choose Again